Condom is the most accessible contraceptive, both in terms of availability and cost. And in a world there health and social marketing agencies such as Society for Family Health (SFH) are operating with zeal, the widely tagged “smart choice” begins to look like an accessory of sort. They are the primary method of contraceptive.
Unfortunately, it is never all glitter for condom as a contraceptive, especially among married persons. In marriage and family planning, condom tends to shift from a necessity to necessary burden.
This is because, among married couples, sex does not always run according to the script; many times it just happens. Married people seldom use condoms to guard against STIs and HIV infection, unless it is a case of discordance. For contraceptives in marital bedrooms, the condom tends to take a backseat to other forms such as pills, IUDs, Injectaplan, among others.
Mariam Niyotwagira, a mother to four, says for long, family planning was just a myth in their marriage
“We are not well-off financially as I am just a housewife and my husband a mason. We have always wanted to give our children the best but it’s impossible considering our incomes. So we thought family planning was the best option for us,” she said.
“My husband totally fell out with condoms, saying they don’t give sex it’s natural feel and so we opted for birth control pills.”
After using them for months and they seemed to work, they saw it as the best option not until they were suddenly shocked when she got pregnant with the third born.